Fiction – Kindle edition; Atlantic Books; 284 pages; 2021.
After reading what feels like a trillion novels about young 20-something women trying to sort out their lives in the 21st century, how refreshing to read a novel from the male perspective!
Bryan Washington’s Memorial is about two gay men from diverse backgrounds trying to decide whether to commit to each other or not. Both have complicated relationships with their parents (particularly their fathers), which adds to their emotional impotence, and neither seems able to express the three simple words we all long to hear: “I love you”.
It’s written in a restrained style, albeit with plenty of sex scenes and lavish descriptions of food (if you are not hungry before reading this book, you will be during it). And it’s free of speech marks, which seems to be a “thing” in all the new novels I have been reading lately.
The story is focused on two men who are in a relationship rut. Benson is a middle-class Black man working in childcare, while Mike is from a lower-class Japanese background (but raised in the US) and is now employed as a chef.
Their relationship is told in three parts. The first, from Benson’s perspective, details what happens when Mike’s mother arrives for a holiday on the same day her son flies to Japan to visit his dying father. This leaves Benson alone with his almost-mother-in-law, a woman he’s never met before let alone shared a house with and had to entertain. Their odd-couple interactions are awkward — “So, how long have you been sleeping with my son?” — but eventually morph into something resembling friendship.
The second part is told from Mike’s point of view and charts his time in Osaka with his ill father, Eiju, who runs a small bar that his son will inherit, while the third part shifts back to Benson’s perspective before ending on a hopeful note.
Well-rounded look at a relationship
Nothing earth-shattering happens in this book. The plot is thin and occasionally moves ahead through text messages or via photographs snapped on Smartphones (some of which are reproduced in the novel).
Sometimes a little nugget of information is dropped into the narrative or someone says something particularly scathing — “You’re trash, he said. Great, I said. That’s big of you. You came from trash, and you’ll always be trash” — which alters our perspectives on the characters. This is a great device for allowing us to understand both Benson and Mike’s motives and thoughts, to see how their actions and behaviours impact the other person, giving us a more rounded version of them as a couple.
Like the much-lauded work of Sally Rooney, Memorial is a story that simply explores human relationships and the ways in which entanglements with lovers, friends, family and colleagues shape our lives. And it looks at decision making: how our actions have consequences and being an adult is about accepting responsibility for the things we do and say. (Even the dads in this story have to grow into this idea.)
Washington also turns his eye to commitment. What is it, and is it worth pursuing? How do we plan for a future together if we don’t know what that future holds?
One night, I asked Ben what he wanted. We steeped on the top of our mattress like tea bags. The A/C wheezed overhead. Ben sat up. He smiled. Honestly, he said, I hadn’t expected this to be anything. Oh, I said. Yeah. Whatever happens, happens. Isn’t that what you wanted? I want whatever’s best for both of us, I said. There’s no best. Things just happen.
This is my 10th book for #BIPOC2021, which is my plan to read more books by black, Indigenous and people of colour this year.
8 thoughts on “‘Memorial’ by Bryan Washington”
This one does appeal to me Kim, sounds interesting.
It’s structurally interesting and I like the way it shows how young gay men also struggle with the idea of commitment. I bought it as a 99p Kindle special so didn’t feel like I wasted too much money on it. It’s a quick read, but not a must read, if that makes sense.
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Definitely worth a punt. I’ve put it on my Wish list at the library.
It got a lot of rave reviews when it was first published, which is how it appeared on my radar. I gave it three stars on GoodReads.
Not your hot favourite then!
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We’ve been discussing the absence of books by guys, at least in the 20 somethings relationship space that Rooney so dominates. Trainspotting would be the sort of guys book I was looking for in this age group. I think an ordinary gay relationship novel would make me uncomfortable. That was my reaction to Baldwin’s Giovanni’s Room many years ago; and sometimes too to Tsialkos. But some of my best friends … No, not really.
Well, Trainspotting is an OLD book (28 years old, in fact) and it’s one I have read. But where are the current male millennial voices? The market is currently swamped with female millennial voices, but not everyone wants to read a steady diet of those. Rob Doyle is the only writer I can think of at the moment, and, of course, this author Bryan Washington, but there must be others out there…
I wasn’t saying you should (re)read Trainspotting, just citing a very old example of the sort of guy books I like – I read so few recent ones.