Fiction – paperback; Penguin Modern Classics; 240 pages; 2020. Translated from the Italian by Erica Segre and Simon Carnell.
What a “cheery” book this turned out to be. I’m being facetious, of course, because Sibilla Aleramo’s A Woman, first published in 1906, makes for some depressing, albeit important and serious, reading.
Regarded as one of the earliest pieces of Italian feminist literature, it charts the experience of an unnamed Italian woman from girlhood until her mid-twenties at the turn of the 20th century.
During this time she gets married and has a child, but her husband is abusive and the story follows the narrator’s attempts to forge an independent life for herself — but it comes at a high price.
Said to be autofiction and therefore based on the author’s own experiences, it’s a startling and often shocking account of one woman’s determination to reject the life mapped out for her.
A false and petty life
This opening sentence sets the tone and mood for everything that follows:
My childhood was carefree and lively. Trying to resurrect that time now, to rekindle it in my mind, is a hopeless task.
The narrator, looking back on what she describes as a “false and petty” life, reveals how happy she was as a young girl, the oldest child of a middle-class Italian family whose father doted on her.
When the family move from Milan to a rural location so that her father can take up an important job running a factory, she leaves school and begins working for her father as an administrator. She loves the sense of purpose the role gives her, but it’s a false sense of independence because her life as a woman is already mapped out for her: she must marry, have children and be “naturally submissive and servile”.
An unhappy marriage
As a 16-year-old she develops a crush on a factory worker many years her senior. He takes advantage of her youth and brutally rapes her, but she’s naive enough to think he loves her. They marry and have a child. It is not a match made in heaven.
He begins to control every facet of her life and restricts her to one room in the house. Unsurprisingly, she becomes depressed and yearns for something more. The only thing that appears to keep her sane is an undying love for her young son and a passion for writing.
For a while he maintained his prohibitions and I continued not to go out, spending long afternoons shut indoors with a controlled amount of writing paper for correspondence, not allowed to see anyone apart from my relatives, the doctor and the housemaid – all under the pretence of ample freedom, but with such crude surveillance that I would have found it amusing were it not for the fact that at still not twenty-one years old my life had become so irremediably joyless.
It’s not all bad. Eventually, her talent as a writer affords her an opportunity to become a journalist. She makes a name for herself writing about feminist issues and social inequality for a publication based in Rome but she has to tread a fine line between dutiful wife and successful career woman.
Self-indulgent story
The book, which by its very nature is quite self-indulgent, details the narrator’s thoughts and feelings and philosophies on life, her outrage at the divide between the way men and women must live their lives, and the double standards when it comes to love and marriage.
It is confronting in places, especially when she is subject to nightly terrors in the bedroom (it’s not described in detail, but it’s clear her husband rapes her whenever he wants sex) and partly blames her own family for allowing her to be married to a man who treats her so badly.
And how can she become a woman if her relatives hand her over ignorant, weak and immature to a man who does not receive her as an equal; who uses her like an object that he owns, gives her children which he abandons to her sole care while he fulfils his social duties, and while he continues to childishly amuse himself?
When her own mother has a psychological breakdown and is admitted to an asylum, the narrator begins to understand that she may be headed down the same path and that despite her attempts to be her own person she is, effectively, just reenacting her own mother’s life. It’s a depressing realisation.
According to the author blurb, Sibilla Aleramo (1876-1960) was the pseudonym of Marta Felicina Faccio, who was an Italian author and poet best known for producing some of the first feminist writing in Italy and for her autobiographical depictions of life as a woman in late 19th-century Italy. She was a recipient of the prestigious Viareggio Rèpaci award and was active in political and artistic circles throughout her adult life.
This is my 1st book for #20booksofsummer 2022 edition. I bought it on Kindle on 22 June 2020 for the princely sum of 99p. I have no idea what prompted me to buy it because I’ve never read a review of it. Perhaps I just liked the cover?
Oh dear. It sounds like an ‘ought-to-read’, rather than a ‘want-to-read’. Not just now, thanks, I think.
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Yes, it’s heavy going. It’s taken me two weeks to read but mainly because I’ve not wanted to pick it up again whenever I have put it down. Am glad I read it, but it’s not the type of book that offers any joy.
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Not for me now then. Not with the world as it is.
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*chuckle* Kudos to you for persisting with it, but not for me, I think!
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It was definitely hard work but am glad I read it.
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I’m working which slows me down a bit,but I could name a lot of women who wrote feminist fiction before 1906. Let me start with George Sand, Catherine Helen Spence, Miles Franklin, Barbara Baynton.
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Of course, but they’re not Italian.
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And in the US people like Kate Chopin. But the one this reminds me most of in terms of control, is Elizabeth Von Arnim’s Vera.
But my, what a life… “at still not twenty-one years old my life had become so irremediably joyless”. I love that she recognised the societal factors which resulted in her being in such a situation.
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She was clearly very intelligent and had great self-awareness. Working in a factory environment she was aware of the disparity between her comfortable middle class existence and the working classes, but she was also conscious that her mother had a difficult life and was desperately unhappy because she was limited to raising a family and not well treated by her husband. As a teenager, our narrator is appalled that married men could have mistresses (and be rather open about it) but if a married woman so much as looked at another man she was beaten or punished.
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She just sounds do interesting and worth reading kimbofo. It’s so easy to not see the true historical spread of women’s writing about issues like this by reading only in one’s own patch.
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It was a difficult read, mainly because there’s no light relief at all… it’s just unrelentingly depressing / oppressive / upsetting.
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How timely. Just reading your 20 books of winter wrap & noticed this book on the list. I’ve just started tonight After Sappho (I was always going to be interested in reading this, but it’s Booker longlisting kept it in the top of my pile). And one of the first feminists featured is Sibilla. I checked Project Gutenberg and they only have her book in Italian. I should have known Penguin would have had a translation!
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It’s a pretty grim read but she’s very eloquent and quite ahead of her time. The portrait she paints of a deeply misogynistic society is deeply depressing. I’m not sure I would say I enjoyed reading it, but I’m glad I did, if that makes sense.
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Yes, that makes sense, I’ve had books like that too.
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